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Surrender is a state of mind. It will lead you to

Surrender is a state of mind.

It will lead you to the most delightful & surprising places.

It the vehicle you need to go for a fucking LIT wild ride.

Surrender opens you to your raw, tender parts AND your ecstatic rapture.

It is white hot power that will melt your mind.

In creating a business.

Or writing a book.

Or deepening a marriage.

But
🌙🌙🌙
MOST
🌙🌙🌙
radically,
🌙🌙🌙
whist
🌙🌙🌙
fucking.
🌙🌙🌙

Surrender is the farthest thing from defeat.

It is complete, unwavering self trust in the free fall of uncertainty.

Surrender is a the skill of LETTING GO.

Instead of gripping TIGHTER to control or spinning out in your head (thus shutting down in your body)

You let GO.

We practice letting go with intension.

SURRENDER in sex looks like

🏳Changing up sexual habits that feel stale and obligatory.

🏳Letting go of the script he "should" have to say/do/perform to turn you on & please you

🏳Asking your self to go "off roading" & try new things

🏳loving yourself through feeling HELLA vulnerable

🏳Allowing more time for foreplay (like, ALOT more time).

🏳Not chasing or worrying about your orgasm

🏳Breathing INTO and riding the ecstatic wave of orgasmic energy VERSUS clamping DOWN & holding your breath to force an orgasm.

Let go.

Take your pleasure seriously.

Trust your body and the signals it gives you.

Breathe and mount that glowing white flag 🏳 ....

Wanna practice now?

If you've been wanting to work with me & find yourself resisting....

lean INTO that discomfort.

Trust YOU CAN CREATE EPIC PLEASURE.

Look me in the eye, take a breath and let's dive.🏳🏳🏳

🤍Photo is the album cover art for Billy Stewart's Unbelievable❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 (his cover of Summertime is effing soooo good!)

I've been fighting my body and bloody cycle this m

I've been fighting my body and bloody cycle this month.

It came at the wrong time.

It came too unpredictably & with too many extra emotions.

My vagina has rudely demanded more sleep, more space, more self love.

So finally, mid workday, I hit a block.

🧠ME: FINE! what do you need here MADAME?

❤️‍🔥VAG: Lay the eff down. Right there.

🧠: 😑on my office floor?

❤️‍🔥: ...ill wait.

🧠: but what about recording my podcast?

❤️‍🔥: 🤨, how the hell are you going to record a podcast when you can barely breathe? You're all tight and angsty and staring pitifully out the window.

🧠: .... 🤭😓

❤️‍🔥: get horizontal & Breathe, bitch!
& for fuuuuuuucksake, stop blaming me... its seriously fine.

We're good here, just listen to me... I got you.

🤍🤍🤍🤍
I inhaled and listened to the sloowwww exhale.

A cycle.

A flow that felt uncomfortable and slightly better.

❤️‍🔥: What needs to shift here for you to be more present and honest?

We are not meant to be full speed ahead all the time.

Your monthly cycle is not a shamey fault that slows you down.

🧠: ok... ummm... I just need to breathe. And I'd like a little space please.

❤️‍🔥: cool. You got it.

🧠: thanks.

❤️‍🔥: this period.... It's a magical, intuitive, introspective reset that integrates ALL sorts of shit.

So TUNE IN.

What do you need MORE of?

🧠: ummm....quiet.

❤️‍🔥:.....

🧠: ok, so bloody internal upheaval makes me question what else needs to get burnt down & rebuilt.🔥🔥🔥

My monthly goals will now reflect a 28day cycle that will be lead by ❤️‍🔥.

❤️‍🔥: on it... oh, I'm making pizza for dinner!

🌕🌖🌗🌘🌑🌒🌓🌔🌕

ODE to my full moon cycle.

You been to funk town lately? Friendly reminder,

You been to funk town lately?

Friendly reminder, FUNKY TOWN is always a good time.

Good grooves.

Smooth moves.

Dim lit sexy moods.

Go. Get. Your. Funnnnnnk. ON!!

Happy hump day y'all!

❤️😉

#FUNky #feelthatfunk #getfunked #letsfunktonight #adventuresofasexcoach #storiesfromclients #funkytown #funkzonesb

FLIRT with your damn HUSBAND. Shamelessly. Unaba

FLIRT with your damn HUSBAND.

Shamelessly.

Unabashedly.

Don't put out.

Tease.

Leave some suspense.

Then surprise pounce.

Fuck, flirt with yourself, your morning routine, your kids, your friends, your clients, your GOALS.

Flirting is the art of MAYBE.

It's the charismatic grey area of possibility.

And your marriage NEEDS it.

It may seem like an oxymoron or unnecessary, but oh no no, FLIRTING a SUPER easy way to add way more fun and pleasure to your foreplay...

In fact, to quote Esther Perel:

"Foreplay begins immediately after orgasm" (so start your flirtatious engines!)

Here are three easy steps to flirt with that hunky man (or cheeky wife).

1. Set some rules (like, heads up, this wink does NOT mean sex, it means MAYBE)

👉🏼remember how fun flirting was when you didn't know if there would be ANY touching involved?

2. Create lots of "maybe" & innuendos, hints, etc.

👉🏼 even holding eye contact for a second longer is a subtle IM GOING TO BLOW YA DAMN MIND LATER ... MAYBE.

3. PLAY like you mean it, LAUGH, get cheeky, be curious and light.

Dude, if at the end of the day, all that feels hard, ask, why???

Flirting is easy when you want to connect & there is not so much dread around what sex means.

Keep it juicy y'all.

Im here to help if you're comin up dry.😉

Ps, check out my latest podcast alllll about flirting w a long term mate.

🎙 The Pleasure Seeker❤️
Episode #39
How to flirt with your husband😘

POWER in your s*e*x life happens when you take the

POWER in your s*e*x life happens when you take the reins.

Where may you be holding back, madam?

Where do you still see yourself passively going along in back seat?

You are in fact, one micro shift, one thought, one deep breath from a break through.

Am I right madam?

❤️‍🔥🖤❤️‍🔥

#pleasurecoaching #madamofthehouse #madampresident #sexcoachingispowercoaching

Everyone loves a good before and after story! (S

Everyone loves a good before and after story!

(Swipe left for me 👉🏼a year ago)

Last spring, I dove into my niche as a sex & pleasure coach.... with a TON of fear.

Am I enough? Sexpertly enough? "Bad" enough? Bold enough?

How shocking can I be to prove to myself, I can do this?

So I would post something scandalous (eating cum! Sex clubs! Porn role models!)

Basically things I had VERY VERY little comfort talking about.

So, of course, along with some harsh feedback from loved ones (and not so loved ones), I would recoil into a shame storm.

Holyshit, I CANNOT believe I just posted about THAT 😱😱😱

Wtf! WHYYYYYY did I chose this terrifying niche???

I was performing a version of my badass, confident self as a kind of alienating shock therapy & bc I didn't believe I could REALLY be enough, AS IS.

Y'all been there before right?

Like, circa 21, at a bar, mini skirt on, trying to be COOOOL in flirtatious banter w a hot older guy....

but HOPING he doesn't discover how TERRIBLY uncomfortable & awkwardly unsexy you "normally" are...

Like PLEASE see me as sexy & fantastically hot!

Yeah, this has been my year of undoing THAT painful "not enough/ too much" narrative.

First I did it in my sex life... & then I did it in TALKING about sex publicly.

I'm still undoing & unearthing of more of MY truth.

Biggest shift this season?

I trust myself, and where I am, as enough.

I have been leaning into MY unique weird, magical essence.

Like disrobing rather than costuming.

It's a gentle curiosity of what DOES turn me on & light me up (thats ENOUGH).

It's quieting the judgement of my past & current state.

And asking myself (& my body), am I ready for more?

If the answer is YES, I create the courage to keep following my scary ideas.

It's ELECTRIC to allow more of my LYDIANESS.

It's shows in my coaching.
My clients results.
My income.
My family life.
My mindblowing marriage.
My relationship with myself.

So cheers to the gritty unearthing that comes with growth.

Can't wait to see what's in store next❤️‍🔥

PS hella big BIG thanks to my coaches this year... seriously, THANK U! @eyenie.schultz @simone.grace.seol @lifecoachpaigeb @coach_janette ❤️‍🔥

I did something I've never done this weekend...

I did something I've never done this weekend...

I checked into a fancy local hotel.

By myself.

Just for me, to be with me.

Serious shout out to me, bc that shit was not easy orchestrating.

I excused myself from a family camping trip and my normally scheduled work weekend.

I dressed to the nines and checked into a swanky ass room.

I shopped (like my new killer boots? Yep, they killed my ankles too😅)

I wandered around downtown.

I work on a few projects for my business at a cafe.

I drank champagne.

I soaked up live music, while drinking champagne and pretending to work on my business. 🥂

Basically, I RETREATED my haute self for the purpose of solo time.

MY pleasure.

MY delight.

MY focus.

In the morning, I attended a 5 hour virtual retreat to conclude a RIDICULOUSLY dazzling master mind I've been working in.

SERIOUSLY MAGICAL.

I'm filled with sparkles and gratitude and SO 💥MUCH 💥PLEASURE.

Ya know, I tell all my clients, we start by NOT focusing on sex (&your partner)

We focus on YOUR pleasure (NON- erotic and erotic).

Calm the EFF down.

Tune into whatchu like.

Do more of that shit.

Amplify more of THAT pleasure.

Lemme tell ya, when you feel sexy & relaxed, YOU ❤️‍🔥will❤️‍🔥 turn ❤️‍🔥heads.

😉 let pleasure be easy.

Book your consultation.

And let's the feel good vibes BEGIN!

Serrrrriously, my clients are totally having a jaw

Serrrrriously, my clients are totally having a jaw-droppingly sexier summer than me.😉
#LITAF

I would be jealous 🤣but I'm just so damn excited with them!!

Literally, EVERY day, I get an amazing AF message about

😯surprise threesomes

😯new passionate love seshes

😯massive CREATIVE break-through

😯sexual healing

😯epic make outs (like road rash, call the pharmacy facial swelling)

😯 TRANSCENDENTAL head

😯 surprise romantic getaways

😯 initiating WITHOUT DREAD

😯 fantasy life OFF THE HOOK

😯 wall flowers break dancing in the street (actually thats literally from several clients)

😯 sexy sunset motorcycle rides

🤩 so so soooooo much GLEE and FUN

Seriously, it's such a fucking treat to be a part of this summer of LOVE & AWAKENING!

Yes, we take the shitty, frustrating & shameful baggage & make it fucking OK, lighten it and morph it into our most vibrant summer yet.

What in?

I KNOW YOU DO!!

(I mean, TRANSCENDENTAL head AND silly gleeful giggles by 8am?!common)

Hit 💫me 💫up.

See you on our consult cougar.

PS. For the record, I WANT ALL THE DETAILS...

no amount of TMI need be spared, Im celebrating and coaching the EFF out of it ALL!

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