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Happy Monday.

Do ya feel the power???

🐱😼😽😻😾😸

I got to spend a lovely day at the river... feelin

I got to spend a lovely day at the river... feeling damn grateful for my kids, my man, my friends and my life!

Thank you magical mama California.

🌿 🌊 🌿

Happy fabulous 40th @dr_jer - here's to a radicall

Happy fabulous 40th @dr_jer - here's to a radically tubular decade of love and adventures!!

"I am enough" is the most wildly under-rated sex m

"I am enough" is the most wildly under-rated sex mantra I can think of.

YOU ARE ENOUGH.

You are beyond enough.

You are the queen & the cosmos,

You are the be all end all, not added umph necessary.

And that's not some airy self help cheer...

Your ecstatic pleasure & power is built into your human existence.

But, the "not enoughness" underpins so much of how we live.

To name a few, it shows up in dressing to blend in,

Over booking your calendar with all the stuff you SHOULD but don't wanna do (including sex),

Constant multitasking,

Worrying about the endless to-do list (particularly DURING sex),

Overeating, over drinking, over spending, over facebooking...

So when faced with not enough "good" sex, we jump right into MORE.

More stuff
More props
More talks
More sexy dates & heels
More stressing
More spicing

I spent a looooong ass time trying to be more.

Ya know what?

If you want to be more ALIVE in the bedroom...

👉🏼👉🏼P A U S E 👈🏼👈🏼
👉🏼👉🏼B R E A T H E👈🏼👈🏼
👉🏼👉🏼C O N N E C T 👈🏼👈🏼

You don't need MORE.

You and your body contain VAST, immeasurable pleasure.

Then, from a place of fun and playfulness and cherry-on-top-ness🍒,

you can add extras galore.

Breathe with me and remind yourself into your bones:

👏🏼I 👏🏼AM 👏🏼BEYOND 👏🏼ENOUGH!

Don't let your pleasure be a mysterious loss in your life.

I'm filling 4 spots in my 1:1 practice.

DM if you're ready to have mind-blowing pleasure thats as easy as breathing 🔥

F A N T A S Y Paralysis. It's that point in sex w

F A N T A S Y Paralysis.

It's that point in sex where things are heating up and he asks,

Mmmm yeah, tell me your most wild fantasies...

And your brain does three things,
1. Goes blank
2. Shames you for not having wild fantasies
3. Feels some version of wildly not-enough

Which then in turn leads you to
👉🏼mentally wander off,
👉🏼change the focus,
👉🏼fake stuff and feel weird
👉🏼avoid & "pretend" pleasure,
👉🏼focus on his pleasure & fantasy...

👎🏼And subtly shut all curious imagination down.

If this has happened to you, totally normal boo.

It's Fantasy Paralysis!

Fantasy is an evolving practice in curiosity (not confidence)...

You don't NEED adventure, kinky fantasies or bravdo in your sexlife to have awesome hot sparks.

In fact, fantasy can sometimes feel distracting, un-useful, & disconnecting from your partner and the moment!

But don't you dare sell your imagination short - let's stoke a REALLY sexy & personally fulfilling fantasy life😉

So--- here's how to better get to KNOW thy erotic self:

Start exploring your sensual imagination!

Remember, your imagination FEELS GOOD (trust me you're good at this) 😌💭

Imagine a remote, luxury beach in Hawaii, a perfect ocean breeze, cocktail and your feet in the sand.

You inhale and feel the warm sun and tingles of heat.

Pleasure, relaxation, ease, & spaciousness might be feelings that come up.

So keep going.

What else would feel amazing to your senses?

What looks inviting or sexy to you?

Any sounds appeal to you or turn you on?

Let's think textures and fabrics... types of touch and pressure... tastes 'n smells...

Your body is the BEST resource.

Your fantasy is a playground- situations, clips from movies, old memories, and the surprisingly erotic moments you've experienced.

What feels blank in your "fantasy" life is just a combination of judgement and a lack curious questions.

Easy peasy fix!

Keep opening your awareness and your imagination will follow 🍒🍒🍒

Thank you @katja.perez for the gorgeous art!

The YES CONTINUUM. Ask in Feeling the YES. YOUR

The YES CONTINUUM.

Ask in Feeling the YES.

YOUR yes.

Not your well hmmph I guess tonight, we shhhould really have sex.

(Ps, that's actually a NO)

Let's identify the four stages of consent:

No
Maybe (that's actually a NO)
Maybe (but open to YES)
Yes

...

How good are you at asking and listening (and sure being open to negotiation)?

Remember awesome sex requires just ✌🏼 things:
You're a YES
You feel good!
🔥🔥🔥

Feeeeelin great at 🔥38🔥 I hearby decree que

Feeeeelin great at 🔥38🔥

I hearby decree queen of the week.... oh heck, why not keep #queenstatus 😉

Seriously, it's been the most low key, P L E A S U R E A B L E birthday week.

My main goal is to enjoy myself, listen to what I want, and not be a shit to myself for "not DOING more"

I noticed how I found myself saying, well, BC it's my birthday, I can ask for ... (lunch alone/ shopping alone/ a spa treatment/ ... whatever frivolous thing I WANT)

And I said, hold up, that feels graspy and limited-time-only😵

I am in fact ALWAYS celebrating my life, my desires and my creativity.

Seriously, I could get used to this birthday brain ❤️🍑🍒🍦🔥💄💃🏻💆🏻‍♀️⚡️

I DON’T COACH COUPLES. (For not, at least). H

I DON’T COACH COUPLES.

(For not, at least).

Here’s why.

Your pleasure is truly an inside job.

So often women come to me wanting better sex, deeper connection and an overall easier, hotter relationship with their partner.

They want him to turn her on.

They want him to know how to touch and orgasm her.
 They want him to communicate better.

They want less of “his way” of sex... maybe more foreplay, slower pace, or to take the pressure off sex.

At the very least, they want to feel like he’s doing his fair share of the "work" to change.

Now listen, I love couples!

I may very well coach couples in the future.

But not at the expense of women OWNING their pleasure and how they themselves create desire & turn on.

Without him NEEDING to change, “be on board” and “do the work.”

Pleasure is presence.

Pleasure is breath.

Pleasure is personal knowing.

Pleasure happens within boundaries.

Pleasure is vocalizing.

Pleasure is giving and receiving.

Pleasure is your truth.

You must 💯% be in charge of understanding, trusting, & celebrating your VOICE, desire & INTUITION.

THAT is the relationship that we cultivate.

THEN, sex is all bonus.

He joins the freakin lit pleasure party.

He may be more curious. Or open. Or patient. Or whatever.

He's the cherry 🍒on top of your GIANT pleasured sundae 🍨 ....

Ready for the work & the reward?

i'd love to have a consult with you to explore all the ways YOU will create a mind-blowing sex life.

Dm to connect!

Photo by @bensasso 🤘🏼

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