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Does your coach treat you like an enraptured, cher

Does your coach treat you like an enraptured, cherished lover?

Heard. Seen. Safe. Loved. Open to explore.

Self-help & coaching doesn't need to be so "hard."

YES, change & healing require discomfort (& coaching brings it ALL up!).

🙈But if self-help leaves you in constant trigger mode, STOP!

I've had coaches intensionally push my pain points HARD, for my "best interest."😓

But did they ask for my consent?

I've seen people get "hard" coached, & totally shut down 😡. Then get kicked out for not being open to the coach's wisdom.

But were they being held & honored energetically at the center of the session?

I see the brain celebrated as the all-mighty tool for change & disregard the body's internal wisdom, pace and consent for change.🤯

But is this always effective or even helpful?

All this pushing.

All this desire for rapid climax.

All this shame for not "enlightening" fast enough.

🚨 SEX ANALOGY 🚨

So, let's start with consent.

NO good sex happens without consent.

NO good coaching happens without consent.

And consent is not just showing up, saying 😥🥶um. ok, yeah, I should be ready.
This hurts... 😖but I'll take it and should like it... err sooo good 👍🏼😰.

Consent is a feeling. A personal, energetic connection that FEELS like YES.

Receptive.

Open (even w big emotions!)

The coach must be willing to ask AND read their client. Lead AND follow.

They must LISTEN & create conditions for their client's yes,wo personal attachment.

The coaching must feel intimate & safe to play.

JUST LIKE SEX.

When there is resistance, fear, shame & pain, the intuitive lover never pushes "for her own good." 🤦🏻‍♀️

Or transformation.

They trust the natural unfolding of the body's YES.

And from there, and ONLY THERE, a cosmic shift can happen.

No "I know what's best for you" or rushing.

❤️Notice how you FEEL getting coached.

Is your whole self onboard?

Do you allow time to warm up & receive?

Is there pleasure, joy & play?

Do you have space to decompress after?

Say NO to intense, no-lube, no-pain-no gain, gaslit, bossy powerhouse coaching!

Trust your BODY to inform you of your edge & lead you to the containers that feel safe & powerful!
❤️❤️❤️

It's Thursday. January 6th. Is it wine 0'clock y

It's Thursday.

January 6th.

Is it wine 0'clock yet? 😅❤️‍🔥🍷

Also, if you haven't already, check out my podcast this week ALLLLL abouts the booze n dranks.

Whether you're doin the dry January or taking a breather or don't even drink at all,

@jennie_juechter and I hash it ALLLL out as we consider: 🤔

WHY drinking feels so seductive but usually ends up killing the sexy vibe.

Also

HOW to bring the sexy back to your drink game 🤩

(echem, & sexy game #obvi)

should you chose to get down.

🥂🍹🍹🧉🍻🥃🍸🍾🌪
(👆🏼actual drink menu from my NYE 😅😑)

Let's add pleasure to that dry spell!

👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
Check it: The Pleasure Seeker podcast #52: Boozy Sex & Dry January w/ Jennie Juechter 🖤

🔥🍷🤸🏻‍♀️

Vintage creative brilliance and art by @veryrealfantasy 🖤🖤🖤

"If you want to be a bad ass sexually empowered wo

"If you want to be a bad ass sexually empowered woman, embrace your inner hag.
Thats right.
The crone. The ancient old woman. The witch. The hag.
The crone archetype is an aspect of the feminine not exactly associated with sexuality.
Women groom themselves to be girls. The younger the better.
Paint those lips red and blush those cheeks like you are wet and ripe for impregnation.
Make them believe you are in perpetual ovulation.
Make them hard. Make them desire you
Get that face lift. Suck in that belly. Bat those lashes.
Guess what.
The crone doesn't give a fuck.
And that is her power.
She embraces her spider lines and swinging, sagginesss.
After all, this is what life does to the body of a woman...eventually!
Does that make you uncomfortable? Would you rather not see?
Her secret threatens to corrupt you.
She can make you wild.
She can reveal to you your power.
Your volcanic senseless holy
Once she opens her mouth, the jig is up.
They tell you she is crazy.
Dangerous because she has broken out of that jail cell you call restrictions.
How would you have sex if you didn't give a fuck about how pretty you look?
Or how flat your stomach is?
The crone is not an object of desire.
She is free to claim her own desire.
In a world that praises women for being objects of desire.
Where the more lust you can seduce the more value you possess, the crone is laughing with that cackle that only women of power have.
She does not possess the enchanting beauty of the maiden or the fertile reproductive juices of the mother.
She no longer bleeds. She no longer bares children.
Her sex no longer waxes and wanes with the moon, gaining and draining energy with each passing tide.
She is full.
The portal to her blood has been sealed.
She is drinking in the nectar. She is bathing in its luminous darkness.
Her sex is a diamond pressed and polished by years of experience and wisdom.
She has passed through all the phases of initiation as a woman.
That heavy web of social conditions all feminine creatures are baptized into.
She is unraveling herself from these webs.
She has liberated her sex from all their stories."
(CONT IN COMMENTS)

Sex and alcohol are sold as a one-stop-shop to bli

Sex and alcohol are sold as a one-stop-shop to bliss.

& we keep buying it, haggard, limp and hungover as we may be!

And we know it's not true.

We know the first glass may warm you up, but quickly turns fuzzy, sleepy, & into unembodied tunnel vision. 🥴😴

We know it can lead to "sharing your REAL opinion."🥴🤬

We know it can lead to a sneaky hall pass for all undesired debauchery. 🥴😬

We know alcohol is a depressant that physiologically NUMBS the body (echem, PLEASURE).🥴😵

And yet, we also all buy the fairytale of sophistication, seduction, fun and freedom.🍸

And listen, I love good wine and fancy cocktails.

I am also very aware that it sounds SOOO appealing when I'm
🍹anxious at a party or
🍷frustrated with my kids before dinner or
🍻 wanting to relax with Jer on a date

Soooooo if you're feelin the desire to add intension to your cup...

& Recover from a raucous December

& stop choosing wine over deeper connection, intimacy & play...

& not eliminate booze for ever and ever (because you DO like a fancy champagne 🥂)

I here for that! Me fucking too.
❤️

When it comes to PLEASURE I want to heavily CURATE my experience. #fineAF

Take a listen to this week's podcast interview with desire maven and body positivity /overdrinking coach @jennie_juechter.

We hash it all out on The Pleasure Seeker:

Drinking as tantric foreplay vs dry humping

Social anxiety

WHY we feel so sexy drinking

& how to shift our intension off the booze and into more ACTUAL joy and sensual fuck-yeah-ness.

Xx 💋
Also, tell me your thoughts this month on drinking!!

If you're taking a break of sorts, what are your biggest obstacles and helpful strategies?

Also, follow @jennie_juechter for SO much support here!!

👄👄👄 let's make a "dry"January (however you choose do it) as wet as we can! 💦😘

Haaaapppyyyy New Year!! 2022 When all yo dreams

Haaaapppyyyy New Year!!

2022
When all yo dreams come true!

✨🥂✨

How is 1.1.22 feeling so far y'all!??

We pretty much all were taught some version of "ea

We pretty much all were taught some version of "earning" pleasure.

Work before play.

Toil before reward.

No pain, no gain.

Heaven in the afterlife.

Of course #patriarchy #religiouscontrol #capitalism

But as a result, our natural inclination for fun, play, joy & pleasure become something OUTSIDE of us.... to be earned.

Guilty pleasures.

Never enough.

And never fully earned.

We are quick to cap what's possible usually for fear of expecting good will only disappoint.

Too frivolous
Too expensive
Too indulgent
Too selfish
Too Irresponsible

This literally goes against your human nature of wonder, spirit and seeking pleasure & connection!

Hard work does NOT equal pleasure.

Imagination, desire and presence DOES.

We must be willing to go back to the basics to create MORE of the experiences, feelings and relationships we MOST deeply desire.

Stunning, sexy vacations
Dynamic, tender partnership
Beautiful clothing
Unwavering sexual chemistry
Rando dance parties
Feeling free
Making more income
Creating more art
Going to swanky adults-only resort
Trusting your creative flow
Traveling to the alps
Trusting your intuition
Joining the mile high club
Your first Gspot orgasm
Kissing a new person
Feeling comfortable in your skin
Impermeable self love & boundaries
Being fed sexy cherries slowly 🍒

Want to have THESE kinds of 2022 PLEASURED resolutions?

Want to create them with BOTH your feminine and masculine power?

Plan for pleasure.

See where you're capping what's possible, and imagine more.

I invite you to this week's masterclass:

2022 Pleasurescape
Thurs 12/30
@ 12pm
Via Zoom🚀

Link to register in comments below! 👇🏼

Art by @rachmakes_ found on the lovely @vulvaglow page🍒

2022 doesn't have to be about willing yourself off

2022 doesn't have to be about willing yourself off bread or cranking out brutally consistent IG posts.

Your resolutions don't have to feel dry, repentant, desperate or *gasp* HARD AS HELL.

In fact, it's possible your planning for next year (or next week) can feel delightful, exciting & opulent.

(Obvi you have a brain and you'll want to give up and self sabotage even on salacious pleasure goals #parforthecourse)

All good!

So let's start with some basics for pleasurescaping your year:

YES you can have pleasure goals

YES the reason you have ANY goal is for the expected pleasure gained from it.

YES creating said salacious pleasure CAN BE FUN & surprising (even while hella challenging).

YES you deserve EVERYTHING you desire (and more).

YES you CAN create it (faster than you think).
🤔😍🤩💋

Want to design a sinfully delicious 2022?

Meet me in my Zoom Parlor
THIS Thursday 12/30 @ 12pm PT.

We'll map it out, feeeeeel it and start the courageous work of creating epic pleasure.

🤩DM to get on the secret list or click the link below 👇🏼

But... can we please take down the tree now? #as

But... can we please take down the tree now?

#askingforafriend

Bettie Page photographed my Bunny Yaeger @playboy

#iconic #pinupchristmas #letsnewyearfuckers

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