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Sometimes you don't see how big your wings are✨

Sometimes you don't see how big your wings are✨

#leanback #trustyourgreatness

I'm running a creative sex challenge in my fb grou

I'm running a creative sex challenge in my fb group and it is so effing fun.

The ladies are BRINGING IT.

The Challenge: Expand your Sexual Positioning

1. Have sex
2. Try a new position & name it
3. Draw it
4. Write an erotic description

Why is this so fun and effective?

🤯🔥🤯

🦄Your erotic imagination needs to be stoked, nurtured and tended.

This part of your brain HATES predictability... which is why sex gets super boring and deflated over time.

🏹Your erotic brain craves challenge, newness, the risk & unknown.

*🚬cue bad boyfriend #6 in the backseat of your car #naughtybusiness🚨🔥

😏Paying attention in bed, like you're writing a NYT erotic best seller has you completely in the moment.

📝And putting pen to paper allows you to internalize the heat & commit the experience into your different part of your brain.

🤓Plus, writing your own erotic descriptions helps expand your language...

And as y'all know the language (thoughts) in your head, create emotions (and sensations) in your body.

🔥i.e. you get yourself hot.

And then you share in the ⚡️ Electric Ladies Lounge and get others hot too.

Join and have more fun.

And let me know what YOU'RE experimenting with this weekend.🔥🎃🔥

Hot Art by @matterofline

If rekindling hot, passionate desire was eaaasy, w

If rekindling hot, passionate desire was eaaasy, we would all have effortless steamy adventures into our 90s.

Never doubting
Never straying
Never giving up
Never railing on the institution of "marriage"
Never believing we're doomed for old listless lives

We want to snap our fingers and poof, our husband is the hot stud we first fell for.

We want a pill you just take and boom, we're ready for the hot-n-heavys.

But commiting to YOUR own erotic re-awakeneing takes 100s of micro decisions.

All of them seem like no big deal, but you have a choice to lean into the discomfort of change or back away.

Should i make the effort tonight?

Should I shave my legs?

Do I berate myself for NOT wanting- sex again?

Do I stand way closer to him while he is cooking tonight?

Do I turn on the lights and redirect everything?

Do I open up fully and tell him 😬THIS?

Creating your most pleasured exuberant life isn't a magic pill.

It's gently making tiny commitments to yourself, every day.

Invest in your pleasure.

I can help with giving the MOST fun micro steps into pleasure😘

Warm up. Inhale. Engage. Try this. Try that. Sweat

Warm up.
Inhale.
Engage.
Try this. Try that.
Sweat.
Bead up.
Exhale.
Get hot.
Get wet.
Contract.
Reach, pull back.
Release.
Sink back.
Drink.
Expand.
🌀
Rinse and repeat.

This is change.

This is our growth cycle.

It is effort, but we make it 😫HARD work by emotional resistance and active bemoaning.

Like, whhhhyyy is life (business, marriage, sex, working out) soooo hard?? #iwanteasy

Want a sculpted booty?

Squats will feel hard and waaaayyy harder if you resist, avoid and complain the whole time.

Want new brainwaves that help you think like a powerhouse bombshell that loves her smokin life? (neuroplasticity!)

Same practiced effort, made so much easier when you're not wailing about how HARD change is.

Here's how to make make the heavy lifting so much easier.

Stop craving EASY.

Consider, hard isn't always THAT hard.
🤔

How am I making all this shit worse by spinning out in my head?
🌀

How does all this relate to sex?

Fun, freeing sex takes practice.

And a little strength.

And your brain will want to resist the change of habits (and pleasure!)

All normal.

Let pleasure be easy.

Let it be easaaasy.

Ask, how is this FOR me & maybe not so hard?

Be 2% easier on yourself today.

Just a smidge less bitchy in your head.

Let yourself feel good- in your clothes, on your tastebuds, in your music selection, on your sheets.

Let pleasure in, let it wash over you, let it feel hot and sweaty and hard and refreshing.

If 2020 has taught us anything, its that we are way more resilience than we give ourselves credit for.

I can see your fanfuckingtastic lit self.

And the sweat IS part of your sparkle.

Change is happening, & I can help you work it in YOUR favor.

Dm for ways to work with me.

#pleasurewerk #pleasurecoach #getsweaty #pleasurelooksgoodonyou

Your fantasy f*ck is your gift. In the confines o

Your fantasy f*ck is your gift.

In the confines of your mind, you remind your body that YOU GOT THIS

You can still create desire.

Nothing is broken or long gone.

Your body isn't "distant" or "lost" in motherhood and maaaaarriage and aging maladies.

Literally, this is the homework I gave one of my clients this morning.

1. Go on a temporary Sex Strike (with love & focus, no partnered sex till you desire it)

2. Have lots of fantasy fucks.

Your erotic imagination is a gold mine!!

It's safe, it's personal, it's wildly effective.

Before you involve others, I want you KNOWING arousal is choice you make and invite in your body.

Desire is an emotion from your mind AND a sensation felt in your body.

So. Here's YOUR homewerk.

Imagine a hot fling, a fierce crush, or a favorite fantasy.

Linger there, summon it back up, revisit the details.

What are the specifics you're imagining? The location, temperature, sensations, attire, illicit context.

GO THERE. Again and again.

Fantasy does not have to be a guilty escape or evidence your current life sucks.

Use these imaginings as fuel for your internal fireball of desire, proof that YOU ARE HOT and FIERCE... & tender and complex... & sensuous and naughty, adored by many lucky lovers.

No need to force sex that isn't desired.

No need to "sex strike" if the desire is where you want it.

Start with your fantasy fuck.

Seriously.

Who are imagining right now??

(And also, um because Im nosey, tell me all the details🔥😯😏)

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Art (without color frame) is from @di_nard, illustrated by @henn_kim ❤️🔥❤️ thank you for your HOTTNESS.

Want to feel turned on again? At any hour? In any

Want to feel turned on again?

At any hour? In any attire?

Message me & we'll start 👏🏼this 👏🏼party.💥

#pleasurestartsnow #yourturnedonlife #sexcoaching #pleasurecoach #berediculous #pleasureseeker

Sex is just one part of your big life. And it doe

Sex is just one part of your big life.

And it doesn't have to suck.

Don't let it be the dreaded, boring, meh part.

Imagine if you were running on ALL cylinders, and your sex life took all of YOU up a notch.

More fun
More love
More vavavoom
More creative power
More money

Less stress
Less fighting
Less people pleasing
Less fucks given.

Get what you came for, hire a Pleasure Coach.

#laughmore #embodyyoursexy #sexisnotaproblem

Look, I know you’ve read some of my posts and th

Look, I know you’ve read some of my posts and thought, "yeah, sounds steamy, but that ain’t gonna happen to ME."

I promise you, you are not a 🦄unicorn.

Or rather, a 😵life-less, plastic, magic-less unicorn.

You can experience immense pleasure, love and erotic connection.

It will look unique to YOU, your body and your mind.

Even though you feel so different.

You’re worried your romantic sex life cannot be fixed.

Your orgasms are meh or too non-existent they could never shatter the earth.

You never ever want sex, because it’s seriously a chore AND you have legit been working on it.

Be a bombsell? Passion with that guy again? so pshhaa why bother.

It altogether feels exhausting and kinda alien to you…

Here’s the thing.

When my clients start to explore their pleasure, they begin to reckon with their sexuality and most intimate self concept.

AND allow space for themselves to NOT fit into a nice, neat box.

Their pleasure isn't a formula straight out of Cosmo.

AT ALL. By a long-shot, in the best way.

Pleasure coaching is not about fixing broken women or marriages or sexualities.

It’s about celebrating what already is fucking hot and beautiful in your life and then deepening your experience of

P L E A S U R E.

On YOUR TERMS.

No matter who works with me, they leave with mind blowing results.

Pleasure Coaching will expand your life and erotic prowess, & yes I’m talking to YOU.

Step into my virtual office and remember, just as my coach once told me,

You are not uniquely fucked.
❤️
Much love,
Lydia

#createyourpleasuredlife #bettersex #morefeels #fulleryou #sexcoachingisfun #bookyourconsult
#getunfucked

You can purchase this art by Uma Gokhale at
@83oranges.com_ 🌺🌿

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