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BIG AWESOME NEWS!!! Im running a small super fun

BIG AWESOME NEWS!!!

Im running a small super fun group program next month!!

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Want to get OUT of your overthinking & overwhelmed head (and clunky thought "work")?

Struggle with letting go & feeling easy, deep pleasure in your body (big or small)?

Find yourself anxious, clumsy, hesitant and rigid around sex & intimacy?

Get a little stumped with questions like "what do you like" and "what's your gut say" or "what does your body want"?

I HEAR YOU!

I wanted to try a new offering to help get you INTO your body, your flow, your intuition & your erotic authority.

Plus, in a snappy fun 4 weeks within a group of awesome women.

Introducing The Embodied Woman.

This is a short month-long small group coaching container.

Here's what you'll create:

💋 a lazar clear idea of what feels good to your body (erotic and otherwise)

💋 how to read and trust your intuition

💋 how to MOVE more erotically FOR YOU

💋 how to quiet anxious, shitty brain and self soothe in a way that actually works

💋awaken your erotic powerhouse & figure out YOUR TURN ON

💋 Stop blocking your pleasure for chrissakes

These are the deets:

👉🏼 4 lessons on How to Embody your Erotic

👉🏼 4 small group coaching calls

👉🏼 private FB celebration & support group

👉🏼 hella fun vibes (think party, sexy happy hour and spa day)

👉🏼👉🏼 LOTS of bonus surprises!!! 🚀

👉🏼 $500🤗

*fast action required!*

Cause... seriously folks, it starts up mid-November!

DM me if you want a spot or more info!

Mystery & suspense are sexy AF essentials in your

Mystery & suspense are sexy AF essentials in your relationship...

ESP when you married your "best friend" "soulmate" and trusted security blanket of a dude.

You always wanted an intimate loving relationship!

Errrrrr 🤨

but what happened to the passion that made you side-eye growl at that bar stud??!

😑
LOTS of security
+
NO mystery or sexy tension
=
LIMP sexual chemistry

(Friends without benefits!)

Does this sound like you:

👉🏼Met 💥

👉🏼Hoped he was into you🔥bc damn🔥

👉🏼Took the risk & gave him the green light (🎆fireworks ensued)

👉🏼👉🏼👉🏼👉🏼 YOU DIDN'T REALLY KNOW if he was 100% into you 😅

👉🏼You were ALL IN, turned on and attentive bc you actually were on high alert 🚨

The suspense & tension was ⬆️!

• Will he call you?

• Is he dating other women?

• Is sex better with you than his ex?

• What's he like at a Gala or Sunday football or Thanksgiving dinner?

• Can you trust him with ALL of you?

LOTS of mystery & questions = LOTS of instability & NOT knowing (and desire).

It was a worthy emotional risk bc you WANTED him.

As you attached, you craved relaxation & security.

You wanted full transparency to trust him.

Your intimacy deepened! 😌✅

Then...wtf

Your sex life flattened like a trail of dirty laundry, stale farts & half truths.

👇🏼Good news here👇🏼

You don't have a "chemistry" or desire problem, your brain just has gotten lazy and bored.

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So ADD some playful, heathy suspense.

🔮 Remind yourself you actually don't know that much about him!

🔮 Create more space apart.

🔮 Flirt

🔮 Role play not knowing each other at a party or bar.

🔮 Up your dating creativity & 🔥.

🔮 Get uncomfortable.

🔮 Ask better sexy questions

🔮 Prioritize each-other

🔮 Really listen to him

🔮 Take the risk of your own HONESTY

🔮 Comfort the parts of you feeling resistant.

🖤 INVITE more mystery & sneaky cheeky vibes into your marriage.

You don't have to go at this marriage sex hack on your lonesome!

Coaching on all the smutty creative ways YOU can reignite is my specialty.

You CAN TURN WAYYY ON!

ALL IN?

Dm me and we can set up a consultation.🖤🔮

I like to give myself a playful challenge of dress

I like to give myself a playful challenge of dressing like I'm a celebrity everyday.

Especially when going to volunteer at the elementary school, take out the trash or go grocery shopping in my tiny town.

But then I scroll IG and see actual celebrities and am like, whoa Lyd, who are these freakishly attractive mutant people?

(👽 😙 not that I'm not impressed by the magic act, but what's happened to Kelly Osborne?? 👉🏼)

Sooooo, I guess I imagine being the kind of celebrity that also has a normal face, human body and personality.

Ya know, just an almost-recognizable low-budget soap star from 20 years ago kind of celebrity that makes you do a double take.👀

I mean, I WAS actually in a commercial that ran only in NYC taxi cabs, which lent me all my street cred.🤣

In anycase, me feelin fancy on my fine self (whilst NOT scrolling), keeps me entertained and constantly slightly uncomfortable.

Therefore self-captivated.

So... celebrity status achieved right?

Often when I start with a client, the word pleasur

Often when I start with a client, the word pleasure feels "bad,"

For various reasons but usually includes:
😖👇🏼
Frivolous
Unnatural
Inconvenient
Confusing
Dirty
Inappropriate
Uncomfortable
Unnecessary
A pleasant perk, but non-essential

A waste of time

A character flaw

So unfair and hard "for me"...

For many of us, we just go on believing the script we're offered in our culture....

Until we see a more useful way to BE.

I just wrapped up a package w a glittering, ON FIRE client who believed all of this four months ago.

Today, she told me her pleasure feels VITAL.

Pleasure is nurturing.

Pleasure is her tool to ignite her intuition.

Pleasure connects her to her life essence.

Literally, "if life ISN'T full of pleasure, what are we even doing here??"

She said she was so surprised at how her relationship with herself & others has changed.

Less critical.

More self trust.

Now she finds MORE fulfillment and pleasure in the simple things (savoring an after dinner espresso) than gratuitous over the top performance of "pleasure".

PEOPLE!!!

Pleasure is EVERYTHING bc it links you to your body's internal compass, deeper desires, purpose & intuition.

It makes life good & meaningful.

It also is part of your self soothing mechanism that enables you to move BEYOND immediate gratification.

(Bc easy pleasure isn't just all about twinkies and quickies).

Pleasure is innocent and clean and easy.

Pleasure is the higher path.

Become your own DEEP pleasure seeker & discover how quickly your life can shift into ease & joy.

(Echem, if an espresso can feel divine, imagine how fanfuckingtastic sex will be)!

DM me and get on my calendar 👏🏼✨🗓✨👏🏼
🖤🖤🖤

You're doing it right. Even if it all feels messy

You're doing it right.

Even if it all feels messy and non-linear and meh.

You are still good at creating pleasure & releasing pain.

Or certainly, not as bad as your brain will make you think.😉

Even if you've outsourced nearly all your intuition to the latest rulebook, mentor or strategist,

& it seems you're falling short on the millionth self-help hack.

YOU STILL KNOW whats best for you.

You just have to ask yourself & LISTEN to your whole self respond.

(Aka, your body).

Cause when you trash talk yourself and THEN try to "force apply" someone else's advice and self help tips

(Bc you "should")

It will always backfire.

More thought work!
Meditation!
Podcasts!
To-do lists!
Calendaring yourself to death! "Self care"!
Minamalism!
Celery Juice & morning cardio!
Endless $$$ coaching!
Bento box kid lunches w probiotic gummies!
More & better orgasms!

KEEP IT SIMPLE.

So when you're standing in the shower later asking, wtf to do about sex tonight??

& there's a hot ball of stress burning in your stomach & you're dreading everything but slumping off to sleep...

DON'T outsource yourself to what someone else thinks you should do.

Hot shower?

Trust you KNOW what would calm your nerves and amplify your pleasure 10%.

(Prop your iphone up w music? Hotter water? More time? Quiet? Cry? Talk outloud? Hum? Stretch? Massage?)

DO THAT.

THINK THAT.

FEEL THAT.

LEAN INTO WHAT YOU KNOW.

And from there, if you want more support, LEAD yourself to the next place.

Talk?
Connect?
Read?
Kiss?
Romp?
Sleep?
Write?

All the self help, healing and coaching won't actually mean shit until it comes from YOU.

If you want support and are led in my direction, I'm happy to be of service

(plus have so many fun, helpful tools to deepen YOUR intuition and orgasmic YES).

If you know it, TRUST YOURSELF and DM me.

💋💋💋

About last weekend. I'm still basking in the magi

About last weekend.

I'm still basking in the magic and recovering from the epic journey ✨🌪✨🌈

@carrieelizabethco @dr_jer
👏🏼🖤👏🏼

#phish #sactowntour #reunion #nextplease

Your legs don't look they way they did at 20 anymo

Your legs don't look they way they did at 20 anymore.

But guess what???

your pleasure sensors still work just fine.

The main difference bw looking and feeling good?

Your asshole brain.

🧠 will want to fixate on how your body appears to others before asking your 🦵🏻 legs what feels good to them.

Shaving for your own pleasure (or not).

Caressing your own thighs to relax.

Sinking into a morning bath 🛁 with all the oils & salts.

Dressing them in leather & garters for fun.

Your brain will remind you
😫🧠 "you don't bend like that anymore!" &

🤨🧠 "Grown women don't dress like THAT... cover it all up" &

😬🧠 "best not to look in the mirror before the spanx n eyeliner"...

Our work isn't to argue relentlessly against our brain's well-meaning observations of aging and sexuality.

As if by shouting positive mantras LOUDER or "fixing" all flaws could just smother self-doubt into oblivion.

#kindaimpossible

It's ok!

Your critical brain doesn't have to disappear.

AND you don't have to love all your cellulite & jiggly bits.

We just want skills to NOT get stuck in the black hole of brain's judgment & perpetual turn off.

Hear the brain.

Totalllllyyyy.

My body has changed!

For sure, things hang lower and way softer.

Something's need more finesse & support.

Maybe I will spend more time and money on my beauty rituals & treatments.

I'M NOT 20.

👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
Who the fuck cares??

(I mean, besides that one part of your sad brain).

✌🏼
Werk watcha got!

It feels great.

It can feel better when you breathe and stretch and massage and move it.

Feels better to YOU.

For YOU.

You don't need to turn back time to recreate the hot-bodied sex of your youth.

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I have a simple process to help my clients trust their bodies over their brain's default shit-talking.

When you quiet the brain, you can hear your intuition.

When you trust your body, pleasure is simple & ecstasy is possible.

I can help you turn on - at any age, with any body.

👇🏼
Click the message link in my bio.

Schedule a consultation.

We'll talk about where you're worried & stuck and how to create your 10/10 pleasured life starting RN.

🖤

The brain will offer you craptastic, insecure thou

The brain will offer you craptastic, insecure thoughts that make you hold back.

Ugggghhh shit, my ass must look huge.

Maybe shouldn't do that position....

Seriously, that angle makes my fatty stomach look way worse.

Better suck it in!

COMMON bod!! Work the right way gdammit😖⏱⏳⏱⏳

And on, and on, and on...

Here's the thing, you don't have to ELIMINATE ALL junky thoughts...

You just have to not hook into them, intensify them and cling to them as the truuuuuuuth!

TRY THIS next time your brain chips in:

Hear the thoughts.

Thanks brain, but shhhhh.

🪶 Like you have a little feather in your mind, lightly brush the sentence aside in your head.

Close your eyes.

Hear your breath.

Follow that breath through it's path in your body.

Feel your pulse.

Sense the air in the room.

Make eye contact.

Connect TO YOUR PUSSY.

Relax your shoulders and belly.

Maybe change positions, lighting, etc to be more comfortable.

Sync your body & breath to the rhythm of a sexy, bass-heavy song.

💫💫💫
Pull yourself back into your body (not thoughts ABOUT your body).

And if your brain persists, let it gently consider:

What IF he loves my ass? (in reverse cowgirl or whatever)

Maybe I DO look ok... or pretty good... or maybe effin 🤤hot (SEE IT).

What do I like here?

What feels good to me?

Where is my body responding?

😯

Let yourself sink into the sensation without commentary.
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Quieting the brain chatter is a skill!

Thoughts will come in waves.

Sometimes the brain is a bitch and won't shut the fuck up.

But as you practice this, you'll be able to guide yourself back into YOUR pleasure.

You won't take the bait to bemoan or hide your body as frequently.

You will allow MORE of your shameless, audacious pleasure center stage
& guide your partner into deeper connection

bc you'll be less performative & MORE PRESENT in the room.

The human brain will ALWAYS offer dumpy thoughts - so don't fight them for showing up.

Just don't entertain them.

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It gets easier!

Remember, you are entering the BEST sex years of you life!

Don't believe me?

I invite you to try coaching if you want in on YOUR OWN BEST KEPT SEX SECRETS!
😉

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